Welcome to Turning Positive! It really is all about our perspective of the world and the people in it. The truth is we all experience challenges each day. These challenges, whether it be health-related, relationships with others, financial, or something else, combine to make us feel frustrated and helpless. In fact, it often seems that we have little power in our life. I created Turning Positive to help remind us that we always have a choice. The choice to exercise the power to learn and improve from our situation or to give that power away and yield to anger, frustration, and depression. The perspective we adopt is the key to succeeding in life. Before you ask, no, this isn’t an “always look on the sunny side” methodology. Instead, as we progress through life together, I will challenge and encourage you to adjust your perspective to evaluate what you can learn from your situation and how you can use this knowledge to help others. I look forward to our journey through life together.
I graduated with a Master of Human Relations degree from the University of Oklahoma in 2012. I am in the process of completing my doctorate degree in developmental psychology. One of the core research focuses of my doctoral program is the power of positive perspective … even the power of a simple smile.
I not only researched this information through my doctoral schoolwork, I continue to try to live this model. In February of 2016, I was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Throughout 2016, I progressed through 6 chemotherapy infusion treatments, 5 months of experimental chemotherapy, and 20 sessions of radiation. On October 17, 2016, I was declared in full remission! I completely attribute this recovery to the healing of Jesus Christ. Three important components that made the treatment and recovery a bearable experience were my faith, the support of friends and family, and my decision to maintain a positive perspective. I admit that early in my cancer treatment, I was feeling sick, terrified, and depressed — looking in the mirror would instantly bring me to tears. I continued to pray and read the scriptures and I found a number of scriptures that really spoke to me. These scriptures explained the importance of placing faith in God and finding joy even in the terrible times. It was at that point that I made the seemingly ludicrous decision to find the positive in my situation. Yes, it was difficult and required me to step outside of my circumstances and consider why was I going through this and what I was to learn from this experience.
Initially, it was awkward and felt ingenuine. However, I continued to focus on positive things … appreciating a sunrise, a trip away from the house for a couple of hours, or even the song of the birds on the back porch. I quickly discovered that I felt better! This is an area where I can happily confirm that the research suggesting even a simple smile has incredible healing power. So, if you have been wondering, what type of nut suggests that we should find the positive in every situation and focus on that positive, you’ve now met him :).
- American Psychological Association – Division Seven
- Social Psychology Network
- American Art Therapy Association